CYNTHIA EMERLYE

"I came to Cynthia in hope that she would help me sort out my many interests so that I may concentrate on those that truly make me happy. Her guided approach to self-discovery and her insightful discussions have shed new light on the way I view myself and the world around me. I am grateful for her wisdom and humor and recommend her highly."
- Artist & Homemaker

What You Can Expect From Coaching:
Coaching is a fun and rigorous process which involves brainstorming, visioning, asking powerful questions, values clarification, balancing all parts of life, goal setting, doing homework, examining modes of operation? and much more. It is a process not only of the intellect, but of the heart and muscles. You will do more than just think about your goals, you will embody them! In order to get the most out of your experience, it is important that you approach our sessions prepared. I am committed to giving 100% to you at our sessions. You will benefit the most if you make a similar commitment.

Here is what to expect:

CONFIDENTIALITY
Everything between us will be kept confidential unless we agree otherwise. You can count on me not to reveal your name or particulars to anyone, including your spouse.

MY FULL ATTENTION
The focus of all our sessions together is YOU. These will not be philosophical or theoretical discussions. You can expect to be seen and heard by me. We may touch on principles, examples, theory, the past, etc. just a bit, but always only in service of your needs and uncovering and honoring who you really are and what you need.

MOVING OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE
I try to make coaching as interesting and fun as possible. Nevertheless, you can expect to squirm a bit as we step out of your comfort zone and explore new possibilities. Unlike therapy, where the counselor listens quietly, I see it as my job to keep us on track toward a destination. I walk a fine line between always being respectful of you and your feelings, and also holding your feet to the fire. I may interrupt you and ask questions, challenge you, or stop a long speech and get back to the point. I will never be mean, only tough. The less resistance you have to this, the easier it will be. By coaching you are building muscle and that isn't always easy.

HOMEWORK
You will often be challenged to transform your ideas and dreams into action. Homework may involve working on a goal, thinking about a concept, etc. Often I will invite you to choose a significant action you are willing to take that week. The object is not to impose unnecessary pressure on you, but rather to invite you to stretch and leave your comfort zone on behalf of your larger agenda. If the homework assignment doesn't fit, you have the option to negotiate or make a counter-offer! However, once you agree to the homework challenge, I expect that you will do your best to accomplish it.

Where We Can Coach:

IN PERSON here in Vermont at Pomfret Springs Farm or at the Alternative Healing Center of Woodstock.  Meeting in person is a comfortable, private, flexible way to work together. Much of my intuitive work can only be done in person, such as collage and dowsing. Some clients alternate between meeting in person and by phone. Whatever works! Currently, I see clients mostly at my home in Pomfret. I have found this to be much more relaxing and flexible for clients than the office environment. We can have tea together, sit inside or outside, get down to business at a table or dance around the living room while role-playing.

ON THE PHONE. Some clients are unable to meet in person because of distance or scheduling issues. Coaching can work well on the phone if you are able to be in a private, quiet location and give your full attention to the session.

ON LOCATION in some exotic place. Invite me to Hawaii to coach a group of people for a month and I will come!  Actually, I have indeed travelled to different locales by invitation, expenses paid, for extended coaching & dreamwalking engagements. If you have such a need, please contact me.

For a detailed list of the experiences I offer, as well as cost, please go to the "Offerings" page.

The Nuts & Bolts:
COACHING PROCEDURES:
Coaching can be done in person or by phone. Ongoing weekly sessions or one-time intensive sessions up to three hours can be done by phone or in person. Any intensive session longer than three hours must be done in person.
When coaching by phone:

• The client makes the call.
• If the call is long distance, the client pays for the call.
• If, when you call, the phone is busy, it is most likely because I am finishing up with another client call and will be available directly. Please hang up and call back within 2 minutes.
• Please disarm or ignore call waiting during your coaching call. I will expect your full attention, as you will have mine.

SCHEDULING & CHANGES
Our agreement includes weekly coaching sessions. Normally this means four coaching sessions per month. However, every third or fourth month we will take a week off, making a three- session month. These mini breaks are beneficial to the process giving both client and coach time to reflect on and absorb changes.

Please arrange your schedule to honor our agreed-upon dates and times. Please call on time. If you must cancel or re-schedule an appointment, please try to give me 24 hours notice. I will not re-schedule no-shows.

VACATIONS
If you have a vacation or business trip, know that you are still welcome to call me for our session from wherever you are. Please make arrangements ahead if you need to change the time or reschedule altogether.

From time to time one of us may want to take a break or suspend coaching for a vacation or other reasons. If you wish to take a break from coaching, please arrange this with me ahead of time so I can give someone else that time.

EMAILS
When you become a client, I will provide you with my email address. Please feel free to email me to report your homework accomplishments, to vent, express your thoughts, challenges, etc. It is not typical for me to respond to calls or emails between sessions, so I may not answer directly, but I will always read your mail. Clients sometimes find that checking- in via email is helpful to them when on a trip or during our seasonal mini-breaks. Feel free to use this medium as your tool.

Getting the Most Out of Coaching:

• Please make our coaching session a priority. Call on time. Show up for your sessions. Do your homework. Come prepared to do your best.

• Prepare your environment to avoid distractions. Make sure you are in a quiet, private place free of interruptions. Plan to give your full attention to the call. Call from a phone that works well. Disable call waiting if necessary.

• Have fun! Remember that you are creative, resourceful and whole.  Changes can be difficult and they can be exciting, enriching, challenging, exhilarating?. You are not in boot camp! Be open- minded. Try new approaches. Be willing to change your perspective. Experiment on yourself.

• Be honest. Tell the truth to yourself and to me. Avoid game playing or manipulation. Withholding and hiding only stunts the process. Out yourself -- often. Catch yourself playing small, making excuses, playing old tapes, etc. Get real.

• Be loving to yourself. Sometimes this means practicing tough love and not letting yourself get away with excuse-making. Sometimes it means not beating up on yourself. It always means not playing small. Honor and acknowledge the value that is within you, even if your life at present doesn't?t fit your ideal. Agreeing to be coached means you respect your potential enough to nurture it. Remember, you are worthy of the time, effort, resources and attention coaching takes.